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The Mirror Of Relationships

Posted May 10th, 2010 by Chuck Wallace
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On Relationships

Relationships do hurt.....  I have noticed in my own life that when something hurts, it is a blessing... the emotional pain like all pain is telling me there is something to avoid...but instead I patiently “inquire within” to peel the skin off my onion like defenses.. layered to protect me.

I am so amazed that no matter how much I grow… no matter how far I’ve come… there are still more issues to resolve… or accept… When I went through a divorce… a marriage of 20 years.. 2 kids… the Imago Therapy together with Pathwork…revealed so many aspects of me that were stuck. Frozen like little eddy currents in a stream.. using energy… restricting love.. BUT GOING NOWHERE! 
 
Yes… much of the hiding was a protecting reflex.. but as I allowed how I felt to express.. and many where childlike behaviors for sure… I started to progress.
 
Today I am still amazed that my partner will reveal things to me that I could not see… And often it is things I DO NOT WANT TO SEE… But by accepting and watching… being the observer… being OK to just watch…. So much grace has come… So many knots undone… “The unaware life is not worth living…”  more mirrors.. more light!
 
My ignorance amazes me!

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Yes to what you said...

Posted May 12th, 2010 by Stacie Hardison

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I experience like a MIRROR everything you just said.  I have lived through a divorce and exprience layers of growth as I engage in the new relationships that come my way.  I guess it is like my friend said recently while we were watching Avatar, "You Learn As You Go."  It seems true in a sense that we are always in process and growth with ourselves and others.  It is a challenge to face our weak sides in a relationship especially when the other person points out our flaws.  "Who me, I don't have flaws. I am perfect." My friend said that my bad quality was that I was not patient.  I did not like to hear that but it was true.  An opportunity to be humble and learn more about authentic loving.  We all stumble and we all get up again.  I am glad that forgiveness has been part of some of my relationships.  This has helped.  Nobody is perfect and that is OK.  We can always try again and learn new things to practice like patience, compassion, kindness, and forgiveness.

 

You are sooooo loved,

Windancer

XOXOXOXO