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Uncondtional Love is not always sayng Yes!
Posted September 24th, 2010 by Layne Cutright
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Mondo LoveRelationships can be complex. If our partners says they want to have sex with our younger sibling, to agree to it can quite easily have disastrous affects.
In the Mondo video, Jun Po said if Mary asked him that, his response would be, “Really? Amazing! I’ll do the music and the fruit.” I think the notion of supporting your mate in having sex with your younger sibling is very risky.
I don’t think that unconditional love requires that we always say yes to every desire our partner has.
I think unconditional love is more the container in which a couple can look together at every whim, impulse, thought or feeling either may have. And then with love in their hearts, discuss whatever the issue is, with their eye on the horizon of their individual and mutual evolution.
The choices they make together, determine the future they can or will not enjoy.
For me, supporting someone unconditionally is demonstrating a willingness to initiate difficult conversations. To give thoughtful consideration to choices that affect our future together. It’s not as simple as saying yes to our partners every desire because we love them so much.
Wisdom requires us to consider the wants and needs of both people in the relationship as well as to the future well being of the relationship itself.
When we participate in our relationships as though our feelings are unimportant in the equation for success and mutual well-being, then over time, we unknowingly make our needs and feelings invisible to them. And then we only have ourselves to blame, if ever they treat us with little consideration.
It is easy to see how much Jun Po and Mary love one another, I hope they never have to confront this hypothetical dilemma.
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Posted September 24th, 2010 by Shikha SabharwalPerhaps Unconditional Love manifests in relationship in large part as each adult taking full responsibility for his/her own experience, and then choosing Love no matter what.
Like, always saying "yes", as in "yes, I am having this experience".
Perhaps it is about not denying experience, recognizing it, and choosing to Love.