why meetings happen?

I thought this was really insightful and I see how I approach most meetings: To get things done! I am laughing at myself, seeing how I always have this perspective and I have a hard time with the other views.

So, this awareness is truly great and perhaps it will humble my approaches in the future.

But one thing: Realizing I am "addicted" to the “get things done"-approach, it is hard for me to see other perspectives. BUT I still wonder about the point of meetings. Isn't it true that most meetings happen in order to get something done? I realize that approach of "just doing and getting results" is just one view and in the perspective presented, off-balance. All these perspectives are important and I understand that the point here is to open one’s mind and include rather than just stay self-centred and "I know best!" To really listen and hear the others from their perspective is crucial.

Of course there are meetings where all the other points have value. A meeting is not just about getting things done. It can be about getting to know each other, to get a bigger perspective, a chance to speak up. But in the end, that still feels like getting something done at a certain point. Perhaps there are levels to this? And perhaps the purpose of the meeting really matters when taking these perspectives into account?

And I also feel that, many meetings today are very much about connection and personal expression and I value and participate in those. But, in terms of solving a crisis, to go to the next step. It still feels to me that if we just emote and express we would go nowhere and I have been to tons of those meetings. I feel that conflicts like for example in the Middle East, a meeting expressing ourselves would not work. There, a plan is preferred way.

So, it is not that black and white of course. I am also reacting to the fact that meetings today are so “politically correct” that it is hard to really express at all and/or get anything done. It is stuck in an ideal what meetings are about rather than the reason why we meet in the first place. Emotional "tea-parties" are a nightmare if that meeting is about taking clear steps to understand yourself with action. Something I actually find is very rare today. The emoting version is too popular and off-balance. It is considered rude and insensitive to suggest actions for someone to actually "work" on themselves rather than just complain about it.

I hope you hear me here, all perspectives are necessary and important but it seems to me that a focus on what the meeting is about is important too. And that focus should be known before the meeting.

I find that the problem is often that there is no clarity and focus what the meeting really is about.

I know my perspective is very action oriented and “masculine”. I get shit for this but I see that we need plans as well. Thorough ones with all the perspectives included, but plans of action none the less.

I also see my quite deep need to urgently take action and how it runs my life and stresses me out. It has to do with my personality on a deep level.

There is quite a sense of this in the world as well and if you look around, perhaps that is not too strange. Is the lack of initiative a paralysis, being too overwhelmed by the truth around us, making us want to just complain – like I kind of sort of did with this post...?

There is more to learn but I wonder if I have a point?

Cheers!