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resonating with other's at their level

Posted September 19th, 2009 by Scott Marshall

Resonation.  Resonating.  Synchronizing.

I've been thinking about this area in the we space 2nd person.  The health of the whole spiral from Infrared to Teal and higher has become a chief interest to me.

Being second tier and resonating with first tier can be at first almost like an inner battle.  I took a closer look at this and applied it to my own shadow work.  A concept developed out of this:

1.  In order for health to exist at any level of the spiral, other levels may not enforce their values on any other level.  To be clearer, value enforcement looks a certain way at orange for example(defense of civilization), and another way at green(human rights activism).

2.  Let us say that I am at Teal, and I am having a political debate with a person who is at Orange(Republican).   I found it difficult in this situation to "resonate" at the level of orange republican, although I found some commonalities on discussion of the "minimum wage" and "worker unions."  (There is a lot going on in debate around Obama and his "socialist regime.")  At any rate I saw an opportunity to address shadow material here.  I am not resonating with my Orange friend because I have shadow material at that level of consciousness.  

So to summarize, shadow material is a blocker of resonation.  Resonation with other levels of consciousness sustains the health of the whole spiral.  Love to hear your thoughts on this!

 

~S

 

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Resonating

Posted September 19th, 2009 by Laura Wittke

So you are saying that you notice that some shadow material is blocking your ability to resonate with, or empathize with, your Republican friend. I'm feeling curious to know if you have discovered more about what that shadow stuff may be, and what methods you are using to discover it.

I have recently become aware that I feel charge or resentment when someone else does something that "I" am not allowed to get away with. I have difficulty having compassion for that person. For example, I got very upset once when I saw someone (called "A") lose his temper in traffic. I was full of condemnation for that person, and I could not feel empathy at all. At the same time I knew there was something inauthentic in my reaction. So, pursuing this, eventually I understood that I felt it was not fair for him to be able to lose his temper in traffic, if "I" was not allowed to.  Then, even more time later, it becomes clear to me that it is me, myself, who does not have any compassion for the "I" when I lose my temper in traffic. I can't have compassion for A because I do not have compassion for myself, or even any type of acceptance of myself. It is me that is not letting me get away with it. Or, I have internalized a rule structure that says road rage is bad and wrong.

Continuing with this example, at this point I still feel road rage is regrettable and to be avoided, but I am feeling a more authentic connection with more space, and more acceptance. I am not feeling the charge.

I am imagining that as I look at other examples this will also hold true, the necessity of looking at the level of acceptance I have for my own shortcomings or limitations or whatever term you choose.

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Laura Wittke