Cybernetics and the Intelligence of Love

Dr. Keith WittCognitive, Interpersonal, Psychology, Self-Identity, Video, Witt & Wisdom: Live with Dr. Keith

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Perspective Shift:

  1. Cybernetics isn’t about machines — it’s the grammar of life itself. Originally coined to describe how machines self-regulate, cybernetics actually reveals how all systems — bodily, relational, cultural — sense change and restore balance. It’s not just technology’s operating system; it’s the operating system of evolution itself. From your heartbeat to your family dynamics to a society’s politics, everything lives in loops of feedback and adjustment.
  2. Every quadrant speaks in feedback. Whether it’s your thoughts, your nervous system, your relationships, or your society — every domain grows through sensing, adjusting, and adapting. Cybernetics doesn’t just live in the lower-right quadrant, it’s the logic of evolution across all four dimensions of reality. When you learn to see feedback everywhere, you stop reacting and start evolving.
  3. The person with the most options has the most power — and the most responsibility. According to the law of requisite variety, it’s not force but flexibility that gives you influence. If you have more embodied options than there are disturbances in the system, you’re the most powerful person in the room. And the more consciousness you carry, the more responsibility you hold to stabilize the system around you.
  4. Integral isn’t a static identity — it’s a dynamic process of feedback and humility. You’re not “integral” because you believe the right things. You’re integral if you’re self-correcting, if your self-awareness can track your own biases, own your mistakes, and adjust in real time. Development isn’t status — it’s adaptability with purpose.

What Cybernetics Can Teach Us About Love, Trauma, and Politics

What if love is not just a feeling, but a feedback loop?

In this revelatory dialogue, Dr. Keith Witt and Corey DeVos dive deep into the science of cybernetics and unveil its unexpected role in everything from personal growth and intimate relationships to politics, trauma, and collective evolution. Originally coined to describe how machines self-regulate, cybernetics emerges here as a universal grammar of life itself — an invisible logic that guides how all systems, biological and cultural, correct themselves and return to coherence.

With signature insight and warmth, Keith and Corey explore how healthy feedback loops shape emotional attunement, resolve conflict, and generate what Keith calls “post-issue relationships”—bonds so mature and responsive that disruption automatically redirects toward love and restoration. These aren’t just idealized states—they’re complex, adaptive systems that feel simple only because they work so well.

The conversation also takes a bold turn into politics, using the law of requisite variety to explain why the political right has had more success in acquiring power in recent years. Through the lens of systems theory and integral consciousness, Keith and Corey offer a refreshingly sober analysis of our cultural moment — without falling into despair or dogma.

Along the way, they critique common dysfunctions in the integral community, explore the relationship between trauma and closed feedback loops, and reflect on the essential role of humility, humor, and discernment in personal and collective development.

At the heart of the episode is a radical invitation: to see love not as sentiment, but as system-wide coherence. To train ourselves in the art of feedback—within ourselves, our relationships, and our world. And to understand that evolution, whether personal or planetary, is ultimately the capacity to listen, adjust, and return to what is most deeply true.



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About Keith Witt

Dr. Keith Witt is a Licensed Psychologist, teacher, and author who has lived and worked in Santa Barbara, CA. for over forty years. Dr. Witt is also the founder of The School of Love.

About Corey deVos

Corey W. deVos is editor and producer of Integral Life. He has worked for Integral Institute/Integal Life since Spring of 2003, and has been a student of integral theory and practice since 1996. Corey is also a professional woodworker, and many of his artworks can be found in his VisionLogix art gallery.