Dr. Keith Witt

Welcome to Dr. Keith Witt's

Loving Completely

Do you feel as fulfilled by your present relationship as you’d like?

Do you wish to be a better lover, a better friend, and a better partner for your significant other?

Do you want to bring the spark of passion and sexual polarity back to your love life?

Do you want to take your current relationship to a new level of love, respect, and intimacy… but don’t know exactly how to get there?

Loving Completely is a groundbreaking, self-directed web course designed to help you and your partner improve your connection on every level: physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual.

This is your personal guide through the wilderness of the heart. Crafted by Dr. Keith Witt and Integral Life, Loving Completely includes more than 6 hours of audio teachings and practices, presented as a series of short and simple (but exceptionally powerful) modules, each uncovering a wealth of personal and interpersonal dynamics that you may not even have known were there.

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Course Overview

What Makes Loving Completely Stand Apart?

Relationships are the stuff of life. As such, courses like these are very popular in the web course marketplace. You can barely throw a dart in the direction of a search engine without hitting an online relationship course. So what makes this one so special?

As we scoured the web for the very best online relationship workshops, we noticed something interesting: the vast majority of them only focus on one, or maybe two dynamics of the relationship, while other crucial aspects were left out completely.

In other words, all of the courses we found were painfully partial. People are being given broken tools to fix broken relationships.

This is what makes Loving Completely truly stand apart: it addresses the whole relationship, by acknowledging and working with the intrinsic wholeness of human beings.

Dr. Keith Witt brings to Loving Completely everything he has learned from more than four decades as a licensed psychologist helping people to heal their relationships and navigate their hearts. He draws upon his extensive background in Integral psychology, developmental neurobiology, manifestation systems, attachment research, David Deida’s teachings about the masculine and feminine, and ascending and descending spiritual practices — all of which infuse and inform this extraordinary program.

You will love the depth, humor, and clarity Dr. Keith brings to your relationship. He is tremendously skilled as a teacher, and a master of using simple language to communicate incredibly complex ideas.

Watch Dr. Keith Witt share his “Five Star” approach at a recent TEDx conference:

What You'll Learn

#1: Is there erotic polarity, a spark of attraction, between me and this person?

Dr. Keith has identified the five most important aspects of relating, which he calls the Five Stars. These five aspects, Dr. Keith maintains, are not just interrelated. They are inextricable from each other. Which means that practicing any one of these helps you deepen your capacity for the others — and neglecting any one of these can seriously wound your relationship.

Keith asks you to address these Five Stars by exploring five crucial questions:

#1: Is there erotic polarity, a spark of attraction, between me and this person?

We have energetic polarities with everyone we encounter, but some polarities have an erotic tingle. If you're a guy, you probably look at an attractive woman and feel somewhere between a subtle to a huge sexual desire. She smiles and you might think, "She's into me!" If you're a woman encountering an attractive man, you might notice "He has kind eyes," or feel a pleasant (or maybe uncomfortable) awareness of your body as he looks at you. You might like his interest, or want to tell him about yourself.

We all have masculine and feminine aspects. At our core, especially in the sexual occasion, we usually have a more masculine — the leader in the erotic dance, or a more feminine — the follower in the erotic dance — sexual essence. When masculine and feminine sexual essences intersect, erotic polarities often ensue. This class will help you discover and clarify your masculine/feminine aspects and essence. Even more, you'll learn how to manage erotic polarities to avoid hassles and improve relationships.

#2: Do I and this person maintain our physical and psychological health?

#2: Do I and this person maintain our physical and psychological health?

Someone doesn't have to be buff and Buddha-like to maintain physical and psychological health — they just need to be willing to invest regular effort in growth and sanity. For instance, does this person seem like they'd eat healthy food, avoid cigarettes and addictions, and ask for and receive help if they had physical or emotional problems. If this person was physically or emotionally compromised, would they make it a priority to get back into balance?

In the 21st century we have oceans of astounding data about health and happiness. We'll explore what's healthy and unhealthy from lots of perspectives. You'll be able to choose from a myriad of ways to discern health in others, as well as maintain physical and psychological well-being in yourself.

#3: If there is conflict, are we both willing and able to do whatever it takes to get back to love?

#3: If there is conflict, are we both willing and able to do whatever it takes to get back to love?

Does this person have the depth, knowledge, skills, and maturity to deal productively with conflict? A runaway lover who disappears at the first sign of problems is not a Five Star Candidate. All intimacy involves suffering of some sort, and we need partners who can hold onto themselves and work with us in the clutch. Can this person manage their own fears, resentments, and impulses to attack or flee, and work back to understanding and affection?

Humans routinely enter distorted defensive states when their nervous systems read threat. Would this person be open to examining defensive states, and regulating them into states of healthy response to the present moment? Are you able and willing to resolve conflict back to love? This class teaches how to handle and relate with people's defensive states. More importantly, you'll discover your go-to defensive states and how to shift them to states of healthy response.

#4: How do I and this person show up as parents or family members?

#4: How do I and this person show up as parents or family members?

We all grew up in some family experience. Does this person seem like they'd put themselves second if they were needed by a child? Do they seem like they'd relate well and set appropriate boundaries with different family members? A superior parent does his or her best to attune to themselves and kids, to protect and care for children in their orbit, and to grow in these abilities throughout a lifetime.

Someone who shows up as a family member values family connections, but takes responsibility to do it right — whatever that means. Sometimes it's helping out when you're needed. Sometimes it's refusing to help if offering assistance is codependence instead of authentic support. We'll discuss open family systems with growth mindsets and closed family systems with fixed mindsets. Keith will explain the difference between emotional coaching and emotional dismissing and why emotional coaching is so much better. You'll learn how to better show up as a parent or family member and how to recognize the likelihood another will show up.

#5: Does this person have deep soul’s purpose? Would they feel appreciation and admiration for what's meaningful to me?

#5: Does this person have deep soul’s purpose? Would they feel appreciation and admiration for what's meaningful to me?

Humans are born hardwired for a sense of the sacred. Consciousness yearns for larger, wiser, deeper, more meaningful existence. If you've ever been in love (and most of us have), you might have noticed that after the initial romantic infatuation stage of a relationship burns out (as it usually does six to eighteen months into a love affair), you don't particularly want a partner whose sole reason for being is to be with you. You want his or her life to have a broader meaning.

Also, we need partners who respect and at least somewhat understand what's deeply important to us. If I take my relationship with God, spirit, or the infinite seriously, I need my partner to understand and respect how special that is. If you find a deeper connectedness and sense of unity doing yoga, parenting your child, volunteering for youth soccer, or having integrity in your job, you need your partner to recognize and honor these significant areas. Often the best way to notice deep purpose in another is to be anchored in our own deep purpose. We'll explore different paths to a meaningful life and how to discover and sustain a path with a heart.

What People Say

"When busy with daily life and habits I often forget the big issues: love, willpower, parenting, conflict, and more. Loving Completely takes me into my potentials, with simple, comprehensive insight questions. In just 10 minutes I already have a new way to look at people. It’s online and convenient. I can engage in an open way, with partners and friends." – Stefano M.

"Keith has had a profound impact on our relationship for the past few years. His intuition and understanding of the various situations and challenges we have brought to him helps us get to actionable steps very quickly. He knows we rely on tools that we can use when ‘life happens’. These tools have helped us get through potentially rough patches and rebound quickly." – Mark Sylvester, CEO Intro Networks

"Keith Witt is a master therapist who has also deeply immersed himself in spiritual practice and teachings from many traditions from which he draws upon in his work with relationships, His awareness is deeply embedded in the knowledge that existence is made of relatedness and interconnectivity. All of this allows his work to not only be powerful and effective, but an exquisite expression of the dance of relatedness itself." – Patricia Albere, Founder and Director of the Evolutionary Collective

"The courage to make value judgments reminds that there is no good unless we do it. Keith shows us step by step how our brains can be rewired to move from clueless to mindful and what he calls dialed-in, showing us paths to live happier, more responsible and sustainable lives and relationships." – Martin Ucik, Author of Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men

About Dr. Keith Witt

Dr. Keith Witt

Dr. Keith Witt is a Licensed Psychologist, teacher, and author who has lived and worked in Santa Barbara, CA. for over forty years.

Dr. Witt is the founder of The School of Love, at www.drkeithwitt.com, where he offers his School of Love Lecture Series, blogs, e-copies of his five books, Therapist in the Wild webseries, and Integral Conversations audios and videos on health, love, relationship, sexuality, spirituality, development, and psychotherapy-related topics. He has give three TEDx talks, all available on his website.

In presentations around the country—including Integral Life's What's Next, Integral Theories Conferences, and his ongoing series, The Shrink and the Pundit with Jeff Salzman—Keith has explored love, intra and interpersonal relationships, and development from multiple perspectives, weaving neuroscience, Integral theory, wisdom traditions, and numerous forms of psychotherapy into a coherent cosmology of love and development.

Course Curriculum

Module 1 Introduction to Loving Completely
Unit 1 Introduction
Unit 2 Erotic Awareness
Unit 3 Attunement
Unit 4 Train Your Brain
Unit 5 Mindsets
Unit 6 Attention
Unit 7 Attractor States and Default Modes
Unit 8 Integration
Module 2 Erotic Polarities
Unit 1 Masculine/Feminine
Unit 2 How We Choose Partners
Unit 3 Relationship Stages
Unit 4 What To Do If One of You Has a Secret Affair
Unit 5 100 Reasons to Not Have a Secret Affair
Unit 6 Arousal Systems
Unit 7 Love Maps
Unit 8 Integration
Module 3 Maintaining Physical and Psychological Health
Unit 1 What is Physical and Psychological Health?
Unit 2 Habits
Unit 3 Keystone Habits
Unit 4 Defensive States
Unit 5 Healthy Responses
Unit 6 Polyvagal Intelligence
Unit 7 Complexity Theory and Defensive States
Unit 8 Integration
Module 4 The Willingness to Get Back to Love
Unit 1 Bids for Attention
Unit 2 Mutual Influence
Unit 3 Regulating Conflict
Unit 4 Keeping Your Sex Life Alive
Unit 5 Common Marriage Problems
Unit 6 Integration
Module 5 Showing Up as a Parent or Family Member
Unit 1 The Attuned Family
Unit 2 Parenting Styles
Unit 3 Emotional Coaching
Unit 4 Hierarchies
Unit 5 Shame Dynamics
Unit 6 Willpower
Unit 7 Step-Parenting
Unit 8 Integration
Module 6 Deep Soul's Purpose
Unit 1 What is Deep Soul's Purpose?
Unit 2 Your Best Gifts
Unit 3 Purpose in Suffering
Unit 4 What Stories Attract Me?
Unit 5 Purpose and Attunement
Unit 6 Masculine and Feminine Purpose
Unit 7 Integration
Module 7 Bringing It All Together
Unit 1 Has Your Understanding Changed?
Unit 2 Mastery
Unit 3 Receiving Influence
Unit 4 Your Virtues
Unit 5 Your Vulnerabilities
Unit 6 Thrive and Love Well!

Frequently Asked Questions

Whenever you want! It is a completely self-paced online course - you decide when you start and when you finish.

How does lifetime access sound? After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like - across any and all devices you own.

We would never want you to be unhappy! If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact us in the first 30 days and we will give you a full refund.


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  • – Loving Completely contains seven major sessions, with between 6 and 8 short and simple (but exceptionally powerful) modules per session, totaling more than 50 individual modules,
  • – Each module is accompanied by practices that you can do with your partner or by yourself,
  • – You will also receive a free copy of Keith's book, Loving Completely: A Five Star Practice for Creating Great Relationships.

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