How to Build a Life Worth Living

Keith Martin-SmithCognitive, Defenses, How can I feel happy and fulfilled in my life?, Intrapersonal, Lifestyle, Practice, The Integral Edge, Video

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Perspective Shift:

  1. The meaning crisis is what happens when inherited purpose collapses and nothing embodied replaces it. For most of human history, meaning came “pre-installed” through tribe, ritual, roles, and shared moral worlds. Modern life multiplies choices while dissolving shared containers—so people become adrift, not because they’re weak, but because the scaffolding is gone.
  2. Hopium and nihilism are opposite stories with the same outcome: powerlessness. Naive optimism says “it’ll work out” and disengages; cynical realism says “we’re doomed” and disengages. Both outsource agency to the external world and anesthetize the inner work that’s actually available.
  3. Real change isn’t just linear self-improvement — it’s a complex adaptive ecology of practices. Goals and metrics matter, but they’re insufficient if your nervous system, triggers, habits, and relational dynamics keep hijacking you. Stack practices that reshape each other over time, and iterate your way into coherence.
  4. Emotional regulation is the new luxury good—and it can’t be purchased. Phones, infobesity, and constant stimulation train dysregulation and dispresence. The wealth isn’t biohacks or more years; it’s the capacity to be here, stay with discomfort, and choose with integrity.

Keith Martin Smith and executive coach David Arrell explore the modern meaning crisis—why so many people feel “adrift” in a world engineered for attainment (status, metrics, validation) and increasingly disconnected from attunement (presence, depth, emotional steadiness, and real connection). They argue that earlier cultures delivered built-in purpose through shared roles and practices, while modern life replaces inner guidance with constant stimulation and “infobesity”: more information, less wisdom, and a nervous system perpetually pulled away from the present.

Rather than getting stuck in naive optimism (“it’ll work out”) or cynical despair (“we’re doomed”), they propose a third stance: post-tragic devotion—showing up anyway, and starting where you actually have agency: your body, your attention, your relationships, and your daily choices. From there, the episode turns practical: train the shift from reacting to responding, build your capacity to stay with discomfort, and align values → a six-month vision → action through a “life audit” that closes the gap between what you say matters and how you actually live.

If this conversation hits home, it’s designed to lead somewhere: Keith and David are also offering an exclusive Attunement training, an 8-week live training on Zoom with weekly practices, real-time teaching/Q&A, integrity check-ins, breath/grounding, and relational attunement tools—focused on system change, not just “mindset.”

Starts January 13, 2026, runs through March 3, meeting Tuesdays at 11:30am MT (75 minutes). Enrollment is limited; early bird pricing is listed at $550.

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Attuned: A Live Training Opportunity with Keith and David

You’ve just spent an hour absorbing these ideas. Now what?

Ideas don’t transform lives — lived practice does. You can understand everything David and Keith discussed intellectually and still show up tomorrow exactly as you did today: distracted, reactive, caught in the same patterns, serving the same attainment culture that’s been grinding you down.

This is where Attunement comes in.

This isn’t another course to consume and shelve. It’s an eight-week immersive journey with Keith Martin-Smith and David Arrell that takes everything you just heard and translates it into embodied practice. Not theory—practice. Not content—container.

What makes this different?

You’ll join a small group of serious practitioners—not dabblers—who are done chasing what doesn’t fulfill them and ready to meet themselves with honesty and curiosity. This is the Shambhala Thursday night group that Keith and David described, but live, structured, and guided across eight weeks with two seasoned teachers who’ve done the work themselves.

What you receive:

  • Eight 75-minute live sessions with real-time teaching, Q&A, and practice
  • Two guides who show up every week—no pre-recorded content, no hiding behind videos
  • A framework that integrates trauma-aware tools, developmental maps, and embodied practice
  • A private, off-social-media community designed for real dialogue
  • Session recordings for flexible access
  • Experiential practices every week: reflective prompts, breathwork, developmental exercises, relational tools

This course is for you if:

  • You sense that growth now means depth, not speed.
  • You’re ready to integrate wisdom, not just collect insights.
  • You want the kind of alignment that Keith witnessed in his Zen teacher — where your very presence changes the room.

This course is NOT for you if you want a quick fix, a passive download, or prefer identity over evolution.

The investment is $550 USD. No tiers. No upsells. One commitment, all in.

Here’s what Keith said in this conversation that captures why this matters:

“I have so much of those things [the fruits of the spirit]—I’m filthy rich with them and there’s so much gratitude. Part of that is because I’ve set out to have these things because they matter and the quality of your lived experience day to day can be so beautiful, but it’s not gonna happen to you and it’s not gonna be given to you. You have to claim it.”

You have to claim it.

This course gives you the soil, the light, the structure, and the community to let those qualities take root.

You’ve done the reading. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You’ve performed presence.

Now it’s time to live it.

Click here to learn more and enroll.

Question GlyphKey Questions

Here are some questions you can contemplate while listening to this discussion. We suggest you take some time to use these as journaling prompts.

  • Where in my life am I chasing attainment as a substitute for attunement? What feeling am I trying not to feel when I do that?
  • If I’m honest, where do I feel most adrift right now — and what “meaning container” (community, practice, service, commitment) have I lost or outgrown?
  • Which story do I default to under stress: hopium (“it’ll work out”) or nihilism (“we’re doomed”)? What responsibility do I avoid in each stance?
  • What would post-tragic devotion look like for me? What is the “small sphere” (body, home, relationships, craft, community) I can actually tend, consistently, without guarantees?/li>
  • When I say I value something, what do my sacrifices reveal I truly value? Where does my calendar tell the truth my mouth won’t?
  • If I had to write a six-month attunement vision, what would be different in how I show up—emotionally, relationally, spiritually—not just what I achieve?
  • What are my most common reaction loops What bodily signals tell me I’m about to react?
  • What practice helps me move from reacting to responding in real time — and what would it mean to train that like a martial art?



About Integral Edge

Welcome to a world on the edge.

AI is rewriting the rules. Politics are more polarized than ever, with the far right and left in an endless clash. The metacrisis looms, late-stage capitalism is unraveling, DEI is evolving, and strongmen are rising once more.

But that’s just the beginning.

This podcast takes an integral look at the forces shaping our reality—from cutting-edge neuroscience and biohacking to cryptocurrency, global economics, and the ancient wisdom of awakening, mindfulness, and embodiment.

Keith Martin-Smith brings a deep, multi-perspective lens to the chaos, cutting through the noise to find what actually matters.

This isn’t just another commentary on the world. It’s a guide to seeing—and living—beyond the divide.

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About Keith Martin-Smith

Keith Martin-Smith is an award-winning author, writing coach, and Zen priest. He is passionate about human connection, creativity, and evolution. His books include "The Mysterious Divination of Tea Leaves", "A Heart Blown Open", and "The Heart of Zen". His most recent book is his first novel, "Only Everything", a novel that explores the promise and the pain of following an artist's path.

About David Arrell

David Arrell is an Executive Coach & Consultant with a background in Entrepreneurship and Leadership Development & Training. He is passionate about both personal and professional growth and supporting those making meaningful and positive change in the world. www.catalystforchange.xyz david@catalystforchange.xyz