The Art of the Love Affair

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What’s the best way to prevent an extramarital love affair? Simple! Have a marital love affair instead.

Human relating is infinitely complex, and affairs are ubiquitous in human cultures. Watch as Dr. Keith Witt explores the art of the love affair — how they happen, how to avoid them from occurring outside of your committed relationship, and how to deal with and heal from secret affairs.

Dr. Keith Witt

About Keith Witt

Dr. Keith Witt is a Licensed Psychologist, teacher, and author who has lived and worked in Santa Barbara, CA. for over forty years. Dr. Witt is also the founder of The School of Love.

Corey deVos

About Corey deVos

Corey W. deVos is editor and producer of Integral Life. He has worked for Integral Institute/Integal Life since Spring of 2003, and has been a student of integral theory and practice since 1996. Corey is also a professional woodworker, and many of his artworks can be found in his VisionLogix art gallery.


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    This is utterly brilliant.
    I am currently doing Kens new course – Evolutionary Dynamics – and this weeks content is forcing us former SHOS students to take a closer examination of possible addictions and allergies we may have around sex at magenta.
    By listening to the superb expose on the nature of the sexual drive, the brightest neon bulb you can imagine has just lit up inside my head.
    I’m so glad I decided to join this site today.
    Thank you

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    Dr. Witt is wonderful as always. Full of insight, humor; always humble. One of my favorites. Maybe, my Favorite.

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    I married my current husband when I was 38 and he was 52. Sex was OK in the beginning. Then I had some gyn surgery to fix a prolapsed bladder. Unfortunately it caused a lot of scarring in my vagina. We tried intercourse and it was terribly painful for me even with foreplay and lubricants. My husband refused to try any more not wanting to hurt me. I love him dearly and have a very open and loving relationship. We just don’t have a sexual relationship. I worried for quite awhile about his lack of fulfillment . He assures me that he is fine. For reasons I can’t totally understand I have no desire for sex. Probably mediation and menopausal symptoms from having a total hysterectomy when I was 34 plays a role. I couldn’t take estrogen due to history of pulmonary embolism. My gyn always tries to get us to see a sex therapist. Maybe I am missing out who knows?
    We are now 62 and 76 and I would ‘t trade him for anything. I just wanted to share my story.
    As a side note I was very active sexually before the surgical problem. I had an affair with my first husband because he couldn’t meet my emotional and sexual needs. It was interesting because he ended up having an affair with my best friend who was “comforting him”. Life can get very interesting can’t it?
    Thanks for listening,

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