Inhabit: Your Humility

Corey deVos Cognitive, Defenses, Free, Inhabit, Intrapersonal, Lifestyle, Perspectives, Psychology, Video, Worldviews 2 Comments


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atch as Ryan and I discuss the importance of cultivating and inhabiting a “confident humility” with relation to our own physical bodies, mental processes, and spiritual health. We also have a fun segment at the end designed to put your own humility to the test, by looking at 10 common integral caricatures — stereotypes that many of us fall into at one point or another during our Integral lives.

There is a phenomenon that has become fairly well known in recent years known as the Dunning-Kruger effect. If you are not familiar with that term, it describes the fact that, on average, people tend to greatly overestimate their own capacities and competences. In other words, the majority of us are completely out of our depths when it comes to some important aspect of our lives — our work, our skills, our overall sense-making and maps of reality, etc. — and we surround ourselves with any number of cognitive biases that prevent us from seeing just how limited our views and our self-concepts truly are. In other words, “the first rule of the Dunning-Kruger club is you don’t know you’re in the Dunning-Kruger club.”

It’s one of the well-known traps of Integral — because it is so comprehensive and includes so much of our inner and outer worlds, it can tempt us into thinking we know… well, everything.

What’s worse, if we don’t keep a careful eye on our ego, it doesn’t take too long before we’ve wrapped an entire identity around our epistemic over-certainty, which only leads to further social fragmentation, tribalism, and culture wars — even within the integral space itself.

Here is a popular illustration of the Dunning-Kruger effect:

As you look at this graphic, take a moment to reflect: where do you think you are on this scale in various facets and dimensions of your life? Can you recognize those areas where you may still be standing on “Mount Stupid”, or the “Valley of Despair”, or even the “Slope of Enlightenment”?

Because make no mistake, this phenomenon is not describing “dumb people” or people who are “less developed” than yourself. It also describes doctors, PhDs, philosophers, artists, and many of the greatest minds of our time, regardless of where they are in their own growth and development. The sorts of cognitive biases that produce the Dunning-Kruger effect are legion, and made all the more ubiquitous by social media and all the various selection pressures that come with it.

So if you are able to take a moment to pause and reflect on where you might be on the Dunning-Kruger path — congratulations! You are practicing healthy epistemic humility right now at this very moment.

So how do we prevent ourselves from falling into the trap of over-certainty? By committing to the ongoing work of growing up, cleaning up, and waking up within our own interiors, and then bringing more flexibility, curiosity, and multi-perspectival awareness to our epistemic maps of reality. In other words: cultivating our interior confidence, and then aligning that with humility when it comes to how we navigate the world around us.

In his bestselling book Think Again, author Adam Grant uses the following graphic to illustrate the “sweet spot” of confident humility:

In this episode we offer another way to consider the relationship between confidence and humility, by enacting it as a polarity that needs to be constantly managed, integrated, and re-integrated:

By holding “confident humility” as a polarity rather than some final state we hope to arrive at, we can better identify and navigate the various qualities that arise as these two poles are either harmonized or balkanized. After all — we might think we’ve arrived at something like “confident humility” in our own lives, but how do we know that is not just yet another Dunning-Kruger distortion?

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Written by Corey deVos
Music by Justin Miles and Stuart Davis


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Corey W. deVos is Editor-in-Chief of Integral Life, as well as Managing Editor of KenWilber.com. He has worked for Integral Institute/Integal Life since Spring of 2003, and has been a student of integral theory and practice since 1996. Corey is also a professional woodworker, and many of his artworks can be found in his VisionLogix art gallery.

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Ryan Oelke is a co-founder of Buddhist Geeks and founder of Awakening in Life. He has an MSEd in counseling psychology and is contemplative teacher of awakening, healing, and embodiment. He has 18 years experience in meditation, particularly in the Tibetan Buddhist and Dzogchen lineages, he is a Buddhist Geeks teacher, and is a fully certified teacher in Judith Blackstone’s Realization Process. Ryan teaches meditation and a way of living dedicated to revealing natural presence and awakening in each moment of our lives, regardless of how it appears to us. He lives in the beautiful mountains of Asheville, NC with his partner Alyssa and stepdaughter Fiona.

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  1. This is both timely and quite good, quite substantive, compact and precise. I can’t think of anything to add within the parameters of the specific content, but will contribute a little adjunctive and hopefully relevant fluff around the edges.

    The Latin root of the word ‘humility’ is “humilitas” (from the adjective “humillis”) meaning ‘low,’ or ‘grounded’ or ‘from the earth.’ It is the same root for the word ‘humus’ and also ‘human.’ The authors or creators of the Dunning-Kruger Effect graph must have known this connection between humility and lowliness, having plotted the movement towards epistemic humility as occurring after the descent from Mt. Stupid, and beginning then with the turning-point ascent from the Valley of Despair.

    In other words, humility is born out of some form of lowliness, or ‘lowliness of mind,’ as the Greek root would have it. I like how this phrase has a double meaning: lowliness of mind as compared to, say, the “sacred heart,” or generally, Spirit. But also, lowliness of mind as in recognition of one’s “low mindedness” when attitudes of superiority and arrogance, or, inferiority and self-doubt, are present in oneself.

    A common definition of humility is “a modest or low estimate of one’s importance.” A ‘modest’ opinion seems to be closer to what we’re after. A ‘low’ estimation of one’s importance (inferiority, self-doubt, per the “Confidence Sweet Spot” chart) can manifest as unassertiveness or diffidence/shyness, and is not particularly embraced by our “hard” egoic culture that tends to favor dynamic, even arrogant, charismatic types. A few studies have shown that there are limits, however, to charisma; in the field of leadership, for instance, humility has been shown to be a more important trait than charisma. Leaders need to rely on others for skills and knowledge they themselves lack, and no amount of ‘charm’ or self-promotion or dominant energy field can substitute for the humility that allows one to turn to, ask of, even be dependent on or interdependent with others. Showing respect, giving credit where credit is due, listening as much (or more) than talking, focusing on others as much (or more) than oneself, and being able to admit one’s errors all point to the characteristic of humility in leaders–as well as in relations in general.

    Studies have also suggested there is a correlation between experiences of awe and humility (even awe of a body of knowledge, I would say). Awe as a feeling of wonder or amazement at being in the presence of something vast that transcends our current understanding can change our perception of ourselves in relation to others and the larger world. It can make us feel not just physically smaller, but diminished or insignificant–“low,” humble. “Absence of self” or “liberation from consciousness of the self” are two other definitions of humility, definitions which begin to advance us into states of consciousness associated with spiritual terrain. But one need not be a long-time meditator to enter there or gain humility through awe-inspiring experiences. I’m reminded of certain traditional practices among the Cherokee, in which a child that is behaving arrogantly or selfishly, refusing to share for instance, is disciplined by being made to sit or lie on the ground and look long at the sky. Maybe we all need to do this more.

    Finally I would just add that the phrase “confident humility” reminded me of that Serbian proverb that has made the rounds: Be humble for you are made of earth; be noble for you are made of stars.

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